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Thursday, January 19, 2006

Assalamualaikum...

Now,I wish to think...and share...and invite you to think.Feel too if you must.I am single.True.At times,perhaps,I dream for the happiness that you have.A husband,kids,a commitment to love and care,responsibilities...a life in a sense.Then again,I enjoy too this singlehood (a bit too much according to Mama).My career,my work,my social life...a life in a sense.Which is worse then?To be married and not be in love or to be in love but not married?Why marriage, Linda?

Pleaselah....You want to go through that whole insecure,uncertain,noncommittal times?The perennial state of limbo?Neither here nor there?Terrestrial purgatory?Why do you think they refer to marriage as 'settling down'?Marriage is a promise.They call part of the rites (see how sacred it is!) as 'the saying of wedding vows'.You vow to love and care for each other till death do you part...or as long as God permits you to be together.Yet,God,being Most Merciful,gives you a way out as well.Though He most hates it,He allows it.

Divorce.It is most traumatic to go through a divorce,right?Even if you were the one who asks for it.Feels like someone is tearing a limb from you.And even with that pain,you know that you have to live on still.Not just merely to survive.But you know you are maimed for life.That scar lives.It will heal...but it will throb as well.Livid.You think after a divorce,you will be able to start dating again so easily?So soon?What makes you think you won't end up like that woman in 'Hitch' who just stood up during the speed-dating scene to declare that she has not been laid for almost a year already?!You have tasted being with a man.You know the good and bad.You have grown somewhat dependent on the man...like it or not.Once divorced,you have to start standing on your own two feet,babe.Don't lie that you can manage it.Don't even use the excuse that you have always been independent anyway...that even when being with him,you were better off or almost alone...Truth is girl,no matter how the divorce happened,you will be hurt.And you will always be hurt.The lost innocence.Your next marriage would be a risk of a higher stake.It would take a lot to risk it...wouldn't it?Maybe that is why some divorcees just choose to not have any strings attached the next time they meet someone new.They live together.They do everything together.Even have children and mortgage togetherAll sans the marriage certificate.Living in sin?Or just trying to live...really?Think of it this way.If a breakup was bad,magnify that by at least two times.Not now.Not when you are not going through it.When you are,tell yourself 'This could be worse.It could be divorce.'See how much more you would cry and feel much more relieved after.Ever wondered why the iddah period is 3 months for a lady?Too long?Think about it.For you to really heal emotionally,is 3 months that long?No...not really...right?Remember,you have to start your life all over again.You have to get used to the idea of being single.You have to get a job.Even if you have a job,you have to restabilise it again.You have to make sure your kids are alright.That they do not come out of YOUR divorce any worse.It is your divorce.Why must your children suffer...for the rest of THEIR life?You have to check your accounts.Your savings.Enough to tide you over?You have to iron out your lodgings.Where are you going to stay?With family?Friends?Rent?Buy?Your divorce proceedings...are they really over?Can you sit and face your ex-husband without any negative feelings...because he is afterall the father of your children?I have been talking too much to the womenfolk.Som of them maybe feeling pangs of sorts.Some maybe thinking.Time to turn my attention to the men.

Men...I don't know how most of you would take divorce.I don't know because not many of you would say.How many of you ever open up that heart of yours to anyone anyway?Then again,I know you men have hearts as well...feelings and all.If you are undergoing a divorce,just ask yourself the same questions I posed.And please,ladies and gentlemen,be honest.Not to me.Just to yourself.Love yourself enough for at least that.And guys,if you really love a woman who is undergoing divorce,wait for her to finish her iddah first please.WAIT.Allow her room and time to recover.Let her stand upright,strong on her own two feet before you enter the picture.Even if you want to help her,help her as a friend first.A platonic friend with no deeper intentions.If you can't do that,do both of you a favour and vamoose out of there!Give her ex-husband the opportunity to rebuild the his broken family,if he intends to do so.Build your dream with her only later...much later.Divorce is beautiful...if you know how to look at it.Makes a woman stronger.Makes a man wiser.Unfortunately,its beauty is marred by the wants of Mankind.We are so at a loss...if we but only think and reflect to know.

I used to care less about my outer beauty (these days I care more,I guess.Ya,more as stated by my friends) because I was more concerned in developing my inner beauty.I wanted to ensure that I am the best lady I can be. Then,I can say 'I may be blonde but I am NOT dumb!' hence should I have as much fun,attention and beauty as the blondes,I will not be cheated like them.Brunettes and all others will just have to be in awe of this intelligent and smart blonde (what an oxymoron!haha) Then again,why would you want to be classified as a blonde,Linda?

Alah,under this tudung,who would know what colour that crowning glory of a mane yours would be?! HahahahahaI like laughing at myself.I like laughing at others more.Like you who were nauseated by my unceasing hyper enthusiasm and yet still reading this entry till here.hehehhe *evil laughter*no,really...Read on,my dear....and we shall laugh...with each other...at each other...together-gether...Never mind.Beautiful or not,in whoever's eyes,I know I am '~~beautiful no matter what they say...words can't bring me down~~' lalalalallalalaaaaBut really...seriously...we should all give credit when credit is due..

Discard that jealousy in us...that feeling of inadequacy..and all other negativities...In the deserts of the heart,Let the healing fountain start.In the prison of his days,teach the free man how to praise. -W.H.AudenSo praise thee well,my love.You are much appreciated and loved by me too.So dear are you,my dear.

Pardon me.. bt somehow i dun noe y am i penning my thoughts on the above... hehhehe Loving u from A far Dear..... *muacks*

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